Tuesday, August 30, 2011
The Alpha/Beta Attraction
There should be a medal for that kinda record, dontcha think? lmfao!!
Hey, it's not like I don't know what the problem is. It's that irritating Alpha/Beta attraction thing that keeps tripping me up and biting me in my cute little ass. *sigh*
Let me explain. In the earth realm the law of "Opposites Attract" operates in everything, including love relationships. Aggressive Alphas tend to be attracted to sweet Betas. Unfortunately for Beta women, many Alpha men become heartless assholes. That means sweet Beta women usually end up the losers in the Alpha/Beta love relationship.
My final try with an Alpha man ended in disaster on July 11. I had already decided last year I was through with Alpha men. They trample my heart with no remorse. But when he appeared in February of this year I thought I would give Alphas one more chance. Oh, well. We all know how badly that ended.
In 2010 I had decided to move to a higher plane in my love relationships. I'd been retraining myself to operate according to the higher metaphysical law of "Like Attracts Like" to attract a sweet Beta man into my life. After the Alpha disaster this summer I went back to my 2010 plan.
The only problem is a relationship with a Beta man feels weird at first because we have so much in common. No "Opposites Attract" law at work here. But it's what I truly want: a man who will be as sweet and loving to me as I am to the man I love.
So I fell for a Beta the end of July. Much to my surprise that didn't work out either. I was happy because he was a sweet guy. But we had too many problems from outside interference, and then he found his Alpha soulmate. Don't get me wrong. I know all about the soulmate attraction. Been there, done that. It's awesome! So I'm thrilled for them and wish them much happiness.
Nevertheless, I'm finished with Beta men. I think the lack of Alpha energy in me is just too confusing for them.
Unless Beta men are aware of the "Opposites Attract" law I'm gonna make them nervous. They'll feel off balance with me. But that's simply because we have so much in common for a change. It might take them a while to realize that initial uneasiness they feel with me is really a good thing. It just means we aren't opposites. Of course, they have to stick around long enough to figure that out, which I'm beginning to realize most won't.
All of this leads me to the conclusion that a Gamma is the right man for this Beta Fey chick. No surprise, since almost all the heroes in my novels are Gammas (part Alpha, part Beta). Okay, sometimes I'm kinda slow when it comes to realizing this stuff. lmao!!
A Gamma man is gonna have the sweet nature I crave, but there'll also be that zap from the "Opposites Attract" energy. You Beta women know what I mean. The minute an Alpha man walks into the room you get an instant panty-melt. Yeah, that kinda ZAAAAAAAAP! The Alpha part of a Gamma man will feel that same zap when I walk into the room.
So this blog post is for all the Beta women out there in the same position I'm in: always attracting Alpha men, always miserable with these heartless assholes.
Maybe you'll have better luck getting a Beta man to stick around. Maybe he'll realize the fact you have so much in common is really a good thing because it's what you both want in a mate.
If not, try a Gamma. That's what I'm gonna do.
Although, like I mentioned in my last blog post, this Fey chick is flying solo the rest of the year. My plan is to focus on finishing the new vamp novella first. In fact, I just started the editing process last night. Woot!
However, that doesn't mean I won't be keeping an eye on any Pagan Gamma men coming into my life. I will. Especially one who's a responsible spellcaster. He doesn't have to be Wiccan, but he does need to follow the Rede or have some kind of moral boundaries when it comes to spellcasting. Yeah, I learned that lesson this year, too.
In the meantime, I'll keep you posted on my Gamma quest. You know I will. *witchy wink*
Laura Stamps (c)
Pagan Paranormal Erotica Novelist
(HOT vampires, shapeshifters, witches)
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