Monday, May 16, 2011

My Comfort Zone? What Comfort Zone?

Back in March, a sweet and incredibly wonderful Pagan guy I know was concerned about me. He said it had occurred to him that I might never leave my "comfort zone."

I've gotta say his comment took me by surprise.

My comfort zone? What comfort zone?

One of the things I love about being me is my philosophy of life. I think it should be FUN. When my life or career stops being fun I tweak it until I'm having fun again. Period.

And that's exactly what I've done ever since I escaped my abusive family as a teen. Life was hell growing up, so I decided enough is enough. As an adult, I've made it my goal to create the life I desire, which in my case changes as I grow and change.

I guess one reason I do this is because I'm an Aries. Aries chicks go for what we want without analyzing things too much. We tend to follow our hearts.

Most people think we do this because we're fearless. I mean, it takes a lot of courage to leave one comfort zone after another in a quest to better our lives.

But the truth is we're scared shitless, just like everyone else. Really. Yet the idea of remaining in a life (or career situation) that no longer works is even scarier for an Aries.

So we gather our courage and take a flying leap into the unknown. Sometimes when I do this I land on my feet and hit the ground running, like I did when I went into ebook in 2010. Sometimes I crash and burn, like I did when I signed with my exagent in 2009.

My friend Amanda and I were talking about this at lunch last week. I truly believe when you follow your heart and take that kind of risk you've got a 50-100% chance of succeeding. It's only when you don't do it you've got a 100% chance of failure.

And this Witchy chick is NOT into failure. I'm into living life to the fullest. I want a life filled with passionate love, sex, affection, and joy. That means I have to take risks.

But you know what? This SexWitch is gonna continue to do just that. Yes, she is! And she ain't looking back. *Aries wink*

In other news, I spent most of last week cleaning out my office. Don't laugh. It's more work than you might think cause my office takes up two rooms. One room is for my office furniture (desks, tables, chairs, computer, printer, altar). The other room is for my files, book inventory, book shipping materials, research notes, archives, and office supplies.

Yeah, my file room is the real monster. I try to clean it out and organize it every 6-8 months, because as an author my career changes from year to year as new books/series are published, and publishers/agents come and go.

It's just the nature of my biz that there are some things I need to hang on to for a while, and I have no idea how long. Could be 6 months. Could be 10 years. But the minute I find out I no longer need something, out it goes! Like I said, I'm an Aries chick. Not a clutter bug. And we LOVE clean, open spaces and everything organized. ;)

I knew this cleanup was gonna be a scary job for several reasons. First, I went into ebook in 2010 after being published exclusively in paperback for 23 years. Second, I dumped my recent agent and the shitty publisher he signed me with. Then I signed new contracts with two of my fav publishers. Third, I had to spend 2010 fixing the mess my exagent made of my career, which meant I didn't have time to clean out and organize my file room for over two years.

HORRORS!

Yeah, it was a freakin mess. Still, I had no idea it would take three days to clean it up. By the time I finished, half the stuff in that room landed on the street for the city to pick up and take to the dump this morning.

No, I'm not kidding.

It totally beat my ass, too. My offices are on the second floor of my house, so I spent three days going up and down stairs, carrying boxes to the street. In fact, I had to take an iron pill to get through the last day. Then I chugged a bottle of Airborne (okay, the dust bunnies were frightening...shivers!).

Damn, do I need a vacation now or what?!!

Hey, where's that yummy Pagan guy who told me about a romantic cabin in the Ozarks? When you're ready to come get me, good-lookin, I'll be waiting for ya (BTW, thanks for all the heavy-duty love spells you've sent my way....much appreciated, MUCH needed! *smitten Fey wink*).

Laura Stamps (c)
Pagan Paranormal Erotica Novelist
(HOT vampires, shapeshifters, witches)
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5 comments:

  1. Absolutely! Live life every day with no regrets, baby!!! XD

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  2. Lenni, that's EXACTLY what I say!!! I always live with no regrets. I never wait to tell someone I love them. I never wait to do what I want (unless it's a Goddess-timing thing *lol*).

    Good for you!!!! Love you!! *smooches*

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  3. You don't have to be Aries to want to live your life sliding into home. Some of us scorpions like that, too. (sexy alluring wink)

    Kat

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  4. Live it to the fullest, being the true you :) I'm working on my own life, trying to tweak it. I'm fearing that I might have to make some major changes eventually though.

    Side note: I've started helping people find that true self. Would love it if you'd try the meditation I made.

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